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Three years ago I wrote a post called: Why I Prefer Astrology To Therapy

I learnt to read charts growing up from my father.

I thought that astrology was just a fun hobby, like any other personality typing system. I didn’t take it seriously, just like I didn’t take any of the things I truly loved very seriously.

It wasn’t until I found a series of brilliant astrologers and paid them to read my chart in depth, however, that I started to give astrology the respect and attention if warranted.

I made appointments with the world’s best astrologers, and with each session, something powerful and unexpected started happening: I starting to take myself and my destiny seriously. I also realised that I could read charts just as well as the best of them. I just hadn’t let myself go there. Being shown the truth, I could no longer hide from who I really was. Astrologer after astrologer was telling me the same thing – showing me my karmic path – and if I didn’t fulfil it, I was victimising and bullying myself at the highest possible level.

In that time, I went from casual astrologer who sort-of thought astrology was meaningful but might be a distraction from more important things, to full blown astro nerd, then finally, to astro professional. I apprenticed under a famous astrologer, working in her practice 30 hours a week, never imaging I had what it took to do my own work and create my own practice and my own approach to astrology

The hardest part?

Taking responsibility for myself. Like so many sensitive, creative people, I saw the world as forever blocking me from creating and expressing. I was being blocked by looking for permission from someone else to do what I most love, expected to get validation and thinking I needed it.

A big part of the change came by surrounding myself with people who loved astrology. They loved me talking about it and reading their charts. This gave me tacit permission to value myself so I could then start seeing how I was giving them control, also.

Once I started to let myself be an astrologer, the hardest work was done.

It’s been 600 days since I decided to give up posting on SpiritNav. This, too, needed to be relinquished, to make room for the next level. I keep the site up because of the emails I still get from people telling me they’ve found something terribly helpful.

To connect with me and my current astrology work, you can visit The Destiny Astrologer.

With love, Jessica xx

IMAGE: Mikalojus Ciurlionis The Goat, 1904. Pastel

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That Frozen movie last year (number five box office earning film of all time) had that song Let It Go. This year we have Ryan Adams singing Let Go. Even Taylor Swift is a Blank Space Shaking It Off. The subject of not holding on seems currently on point for little and big babies alike.

I guess with all the shit overwhelming and bombarding us right now, all the empty opinions and trite imperatives, we have no choice but to let go and let go and let go or drown fast.

For help, read Letting Go by Dr David Hawkins.


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“As a person constantly surrenders, physical and psychosomatic disorders improve and frequently disappear altogether.” – Dr David Hawkins, Letting Go.

When I was a little girl I had very vivid dreams that I enjoyed more than being awake. At certain points in my dreams I would realise that I was in fact dreaming, and that if something terrifying was happening that I didn’t like, such as being eaten by a giant tortoise, I could stop the dream and make the tortoise do something different. I think I learned how to do this because my dreams were so often terrifying and I had to adapt to them somehow. But when I realised I was dreaming, I was really free to have fun.

Sleeping is lovely, yes, but even more lovely when you know you’re dreaming.

There seems to be a link between believing that falsehoods are true and being insane. That seems obvious. And yet we are all so very insane because we don’t know we’re dreaming. What we perceive is mostly fantasy.

“Can you really know that is true?” asks Byron Katie. There is nothing that survives this test if we are brave enough to be honest. 

Ask this question often enough and you start to see how all our reality is something invented, and how much power we therefore actually have to invent our lives as a pleasant dream – that we can stop the tortoise from eating us any time we want.

Time brutally and mercifully proves to me that I am wrong about everything, so it’s most efficient to admit the truth sooner rather than later. Mostly I’m wrong. I don’t know. But so what?

Victor Frankl advised that we reinvent life into a quest for meaning, that we see every challenge in every minute as a gateway to awareness and power, which is helpful advice for us if we are to survive this concentration camp of life. Forty years later Andy Warhol described being born as like being kidnapped and then sold into slavery, and I agree with that, which is why I think everyone can relate to Frankl’s writings even if they have never incurred any official hardship or ever met a Nazi officer or had to line up daily to survive selection for a gas chamber.

The more prepared I am to be honest and let go of what I think is true but isn’t, the more sane I find I become.


Guy Bourdin
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Asahi Optical Company Limited. Tokyo, Japan
© Estate of Guy Bourdin



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A woman in my building had much of her extensive Vuitton collection cast down the garbage shoot by a jilted lover. As each piece disappeared she worried. He told her she must be losing it. I guess she was.

I was interested to discover who this woman might be without her usual shield of Epi Leather in every colour, without her hundreds of Chopard and Cartier sunglasses to cover her eyes in the elevator (apparently he made away with these also), but I didn’t have the chance because she left the building soon after.

It seems so deliciously perverse and yet maybe she really needed him to help her let go of that bullshit.

I’ve kind of leveraged this precedent, ruthlessly disposing of anything that stops me from letting go, regardless of whether it is weighted in hours of time invested or carats or hand-stitched hours. It’s possible to grow obese on the past and still be whippet thin. As I dragged several bags to the larger rubbish skip this morning, I was not longer being dragged: I was the one dragging. Things aren’t things but energy fields, and I can only carry so much energy with me before it becomes a paralysing weight.

Lightness is an incredible luxury. Magic resonates at the finest and lightest of octaves. Peace is as free and light as a breath.


Guy Bourdin
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© The Estate of Guy Bourdin, 2013

If you want something better to read than this blog I can suggest at least two books that are infinitely more helpful.

The concepts in both these books overlap: their point is to let go of illusions. Illusions are ideas about reality that are untrue which we mistake for truth. Because they are based in fear, they create fear and misery and confusion. The books approach this task of releasing illusions from different angles.

Hawkins’ “Letting Go” is about acknowledging each feeling that arrises from lower levels of consciousness, experiencing it, and then allowing it to dissolve as we realise it isn’t really true. It’s a de-cluttering, a bit like if you lived in a house full of smashed glasses and you then decided that instead of cutting yourself every second minute you might instead start sweeping the glass out and letting it go.

Ideas that come from grief, guilt, shame, anger, pride, and even reason are ideas that serve a purpose. They are helpful in our awakening and perfectly fine. But they are not the truth. We see that our thoughts are things that can be disposed of because they are passing fantasies, and this makes room for different levels of perception.

Loving What Is” teaches that the glass that cuts us every second minute isn’t really the problem. Being cut by glass is no worse than the fact we are dying in every moment. That in itself might be a very good thing, and it probably is. The problem is the stories we tell ourselves about why the glass is cutting us. Nothing in life is bad or a problem. Hurt comes from hurt thoughts. We create stories about why things are bad, and these stories create pain. When we learn to challenge our thoughts and stories, asking whether they could really be true, and whether they are not something we are creating in our mind for ourselves, we are able to stop hurting ourselves with our thoughts about things. Nothing needs to be painful anymore. Life can just happen.

I disliked Loving What Is when I first read Katie’s work, because it inverted everything I understood about life to the point of me finding it offensive. “No one is hurting me, I am hurting me?” How could that be possible? Why on earth would I want to do that? “I am offending myself? I am being mean to myself? I do all the same things that I dislike in other people?” It’s not possible! But now I understand and it’s a favourite book.

In essence, life is a dream and at this point all I want to do is to make my dream a nice one. I don’t need to get worried about nothing. There is no imperative, I just want room to breathe in peace and to see what is beautiful about life that I wasn’t allowing myself to see.

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So much of our energy and life is consumed by what we think we have to do, and who we think we have to be. The ideal varies from person to person.

It’s often easiest to blame the people around us: they expect us to be a certain way, they are criticising us for not measuring up to what are actually our own ideals. We may be furious and depressed by all the expectations that we believe the people around us have, only to find that we are, in fact, the only ones demanding these things from ourselves. The burdens we place upon ourselves make us miserable and unbearable to be around.

Obligations comes from the level of thought and reason. They may appear rational, but they are not. They are reactions to unconscious fears and the compulsion to control what cannot be controlled.

When we devote ourselves to conforming to ideals, we waste all our energy on conforming to an illusion. That is exhausting.

This pressure to live a certain way – whatever it might be – traps us in ideals that separate us from the joy of simply being alive in each moment, being what we are. With our eyes forever on simply measuring up, we have no energy left to be free and thrive on the simplicity of not needing to be anything.

How easy it is to find ourselves in situations we thought we would love and instead being engulfed by the tide of obligation. We drown. There are a never ending list of things we may decide we need to be that waits below our surface. A sense that we must be different from what we are, or that things must be a certain way, steals life from everything.

When we let go of all of our ideas about who we need to be in order to be happy and successful and acceptable, we might be surprised by how easy it is to be the person who remains.

No longer having to be anyone or anything, we are finally free to actually try things and enjoy them without needing anything from them more than simply just being there.

Not needing to be anything allows us to be creative. We connect to more energy and can do more. We love what we are as it is, and this love powers us. Love is the most powerful of energies – it drives people to do incredible things that you could never pay them to do.

What thought is making you feel terrible? Perhaps it’s the thought that you should be doing anything?


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We make ourselves stressed. This stress comes from our beliefs. If we have stressful beliefs, we will find that we become stressed.

If there is a task we believe we need to complete, for instance, those who seemingly prevent us from completing the task become our enemy. The idea that we must complete the task is any example of a stressful illusion.

If we believe we need love from someone to feel safe, they will become our enemy when they choose not to be loving. This belief makes us stressed. It isn’t true, and yet because we believe it to be true, we are disconnected from the peace that comes from truth.

Stressful beliefs are those that tell us that people and things need to be a certain way for us to feel safe, good and joyful. Each time we mistake the source of our peace for something outside of ourselves – an achievement or applause – we become enslaved by a stressful illusion.

The idea that another person can make us feel safe and good is a stressful believe. We cannot have an honest relationship with anyone or anything that we depend upon to feel peaceful. Because we are reliant for our sense of peace, we will choose not to see the truth so as to avoid what we consider an uncooperative reality. Dependency means that we will prefer the illusion of safety to truth.

Stress cannot exist when we aren’t dependent on the external world for our sense of peace. “I thought I needed that to feel peaceful, but actually I do not.”

This can be our discovery each time we uncover a stressed illusion about what we thought we needed from the world. Each disappointment can teach us about what we are seeking outside of ourselves, and about what we don’t really need after all.

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If I need you to agree with me, it is because I believe that my safety is contingent on your approval. It’s a hangover from childhood, and maturity requires that we let this view go. Depending on any external thing for a sense of security is futile, because there is no real peace that can be found external to ourselves. We are the source of peace, irrespective of our inability to create peace with others on the physical plane.

It is just as futile to expect people, ourselves included, to always behave in a way that we consider most convenient to our own passing whimsies.

We may resent others for not cooperating with our imagined needs. For all this resentment, mostly our beliefs about what we need are in fact the opposite of what is actually needed. Nothing is in fact needed other that what is. Things are fine as they are.

Every peculiar and particular need is in fact a matter of passing taste. Much of what we demand from the world is a mere prop for a fragile ego that would do better for shattering anyway. Deny us our needs, and you liberate us from them. We could be a little more grateful.

If I need you to agree with me, I am depending on you in a way that is of no help to either of us. I cannot find bliss inside, so I seek for it where it cannot be found. The idea that you can harm me is untrue. We cannot be harmed. When life does not cooperate, we are receiving a lesson in how things are, and that things don’t actually need to be any particular way for us to feel bliss in each moment. We learn that we can choose bliss irrespective of external circumstances.

If we cry at the world for not cooperating with our every whim we go through lives like spoiled children, believing that every discomfort is a possible threat to our very existence. It’s quite mean and childish to withdraw love from others because they do not give us exactly what we think we need from them. Somehow we expect others to give us unconditional love and cooperation, and yet we are entirely unprepared to offer it to anyone else.

Whether things go our way or they don’t, we are fine. Whether a person treats us the way we want them to or not, they are still the same person. If we cannot love a person regardless of their behaviour, then we cannot really love at all. I’m not sure if that’s quite what we want.

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The more we experience the bliss of being, the more all other things become progressively lacklustre. We become bored with what had formerly excited us. People, places and objects that thrilled us and annoyed us become things we scarcely notice. We let go of the sense that our judgments are truth.

We see things we might not have seen before. When people talk, we may start to hear their love or their desperation in ways we had never before noticed. We notice these things in ourselves also. We become more in tune with the truth behind things because we are more in tune with the truth behind ourselves.

The bliss of being is a state we move into when we release our attachment to finding love in anything other than loving awareness. Until then, we may look for love and bliss it in what we do or what we have. We may be thrilled temporarily, but we have only been distracted from our fears for a mere moment.

We can spend our whole lives moving from distraction to distraction. Escape and avoidance underpin much of our economy. Entertainment, consumption, work and liquor would be of far less interest to us if it were not for the perpetual seeking of avoidance of our feelings.

Seeking love in the wrong place makes us angry and confused and disillusioned. If we expect to find infinite peace and contentment where it cannot be found, we are in fact hurting ourselves. It is unkind to deceive to anyone, ourselves included.

The bliss of being is what remains when we have let go of everything else because we have learnt that nothing else is needed.

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With time it becomes exhausting to care about things that are not very important. As we get older we have less energy to spend on seeking approval or getting things that we mistakenly believe we need. With less energy and time to waste, we become more discerning. What appeared important to us in the morning is revealed as inconsequential by afternoon.

The less time we have, the more we value our time. This is why life must be finite for it to be meaningful. Death and limits are a gift.

As our energy flags, so too do our desires. We see that they are a drain on our vitality and that they distract us from what we really are. With experience and perspective, we are no longer strangled by the grip of our erroneous ideas about life.

Every time we become sick or slow or deflated or depressed, we have the opportunity to see the truth about what is important. Weakened, we no longer have the energy to sustain what is false, and so to survive we must let go of every unnecessary thing. This lack of energy and patience for falsehood frees us to discover what is true.

Lighter, we find a ‘new lease on life’. We have had to remove what is unnecessary, and what seemed like an obstacle was in fact a forced letting go.

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We are all full of negative feelings that perpetuate negative experiences. These can be released to make room for higher levels of consciousness. How?

Our first task is to become aware of what we feel. This is an achievement in itself, as we are often terrified of our own negative feelings. They are repressed and can only find unconscious outlets.

Resisting a feeling only perpetuates it. It can only be dissolved by sitting with it and being perfectly fine with the feeling as it is.  Feelings are a gateway to learning, and we need patience to learn. Listening to our feelings will tell us what is stored up inside us.

No feeling is bad. No feeling is true, either. Guilt and shame only repress feelings further. We can become curious about how we feel. We can embrace how we feel, however unpleasant that feeling is. This instantly goes a long way towards lightening the load. It shifts us into courage and acceptance and love. The fear is diluted and dissolved.

But we must experience each feeling fully to learn exactly what it is. It must be allowed to fully manifest. Its energy must be released. Repression simply hides it away again, and repressed feelings are not released. We need to stay in the feeling so that it is uncovered.

We do this privately. It is not to be expressed to anyone but ourselves, because our feelings are our business only. If we are angry and express anger to the person we mistake for the source of our anger, then we aren’t in a position to become free from the anger. We have given the anger away, and we cannot learn from it. Anger will be replaced by guilt as we feel ashamed of what we have done.

Feelings that aren’t resisted become lighter. Eventually they become so light that they drift away. They might become as light as laughter. When we let go of a feeling, we can start to see terrifying situations as somewhat humorous. We discover things about situations we had never been able to see before. Reality is changed, because we have changed.

Releasing negativity is the gateway to higher consciousness, because it makes room within us for higher states of being.

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The world around us reminds us of who we are inside. As we interact with the world, we only see what we are.

We can only be made depressed by the evening news if we have sadness and despair within. We can only be made furious by a friend if we have fury to give away. Ideas only stick with us if they connect to what is inside. They slip away, unnoticed and discarded, if they don’t connect to us in any way.

All goodness that we experience in the world is the result of our inner goodness being awakened. Love and joy in the external world awaken the love and joy within us. The person who operates from pure reason will see endless challenges to reason and a world full of things to be reasoned out. We live and die by the level of our own consciousness.

If we experience negativity, we can only do so because we have the ability to engage negative feelings. This ability comes from having negativity to give away to the world. We only feel the emotions that we have within us to feel. If we did not have negativity within, we could not feel negatively about things, and therefore we would not see anything to be upset with.

To be afraid of the dark, we must first have fear within us. The darkness is possibly a gift that helps us to understand how afraid we really are but had repressed, but instead we may mistake darkness as the enemy. We blame the dark for our fear. The dark is however a helpful place for us to shove all our fears with a seemingly plausible explanation. We will believe: “I am not afraid, the dark is making me afraid.” Because we don’t want to see our own inner fear, we decide that it is caused by something else.

Because we all contain many accumulated stresses that come from fear, apathy, desire, guilt, pride and anger, we connect to these ideas in the world around us. We mistake what is within us for the truth. The angry person knows that they have been harmed. The person without anger within them knows that they cannot really ever be harmed by anything. Closer to the truth is that our inner negativity is causing all outer negative experiences of life.

We can take responsibility for our experience of life by seeking to release the negativity within. When we release negative energies we will see a different world entirely. We will see the things that people who are filled with love, acceptance and bliss see. We will understand that truth is subjective and entirely contingent on the quality of what is within us.


When we are completely absorbed in what we are doing, we are without thought. Time passes and we hardly notice. We aren’t thinking. Our minds are still and they don’t trouble us. We may be very busy, but we create without a single thought being necessary. Without thoughts there are no stresses.

Within us already is an awareness of everything we need to know.

We can connect to this awareness. Love, joy, bliss, peace, creativity – these are accessed through a higher level of awareness. They transcend the limits of thought.

If this is what we wish to experience for ourselves and for others, then our reliance of thought must be relinquished. Seeking truth in thought keeps us trapped at the limits of thought.

Ideas may illuminate aspects of what lies within us, but they are only guides. They do not tell us what reality really is. Thought is no access point to truth.

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Screen Shot 2014-09-14 at 5.11.24 PMWhere have I been? What have I been doing? The arbitrary challenge of writing regularly for SpiritNav has served as a regular purge and a source of inspiration to others also, it appears. I’m always surprised and cheered to receive mail from readers and relish any sincere-sounding compliments, so thank you. Reviews are naturally a health mix; one person in my acquaintance described my writing as the “pious warblings of a Gucci nun”. Not bad, eh? If I get on a roll here again I’ll add a new category called “Fuckwhit Whispering” because I’ve collected all the patches for that.

I’ve not really promoted my writing in any meaningful way because I’ve not really been intensely committed to pushing this particular agenda beyond the process of purging ideas and discovering honesty. Bread needs to be kneaded and it also needs to rest, and so now it’s time for a Sabbath to work on a few other things that have proven more inspiring. The great challenge in writing, for me, stems from the limits of selectivity. Discernment is everything and yet it cuts out so much; it’s impossible when writing to capture the whole spectrum of things, and so therefore it’s very hard to write honestly because taking a fixed position is to lie, and yet without a firm grasp on values we cannot be honest either. Perhaps that’s why I can’t get particularly excited about promoting today anything that I did yesterday because yesterday’s words are dead, even if they were truly alive five minutes early. They are stepping stones to tomorrow’s birth and I’m only really interested in the next steps, the next idea, the next piece of inspiration. Dealing in this paradox of choosing and committing through writing is I suppose no different from making all other choices from hour to hour and any other commitment – a commitment is vital to creating enduring satisfaction but it is also in many ways the deadest of end. This is truly my feeling and explains so much about why I find myself in the conundrums that are specific to me. Maybe it’s idealism whipped into a frenzy: is this idea an ideal? Does it need to be? Is this a horse I could mount and ride for all eternity? And need it be?

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The evolving consciousness does well when it sees itself as collecting perspectives, measuring them up and balancing them against one another and seeing which ones stick and stand out and endure as valuable. Every personality has its own complex problems to overcome in finding its highest expression. I suppose this is what makes Nietzsche in my mind one of the firmest proponents of truth – we are becoming. But becoming what, exactly?

Nietzsche loathed being quoted out of the context, a testament to his honesty, but a quote is an entry point into entire new worlds and we all want that, don’t we. To in no way minimise this dishonesty here is Nietzschean philosophy in 16 Pinterest Pins.

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Perhaps I’ll meet you over the abyss somewhere?


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Because we are laughed at, I don’t think people really understand how essential [comedians] are to their sanity. If it weren’t for the brief respite we give the world with our foolishness, the world would see mass suicide in numbers that compare favorably with the death rate of the lemmings. I’m sure most of you have heard the story of the man who, desperately ill, goes to an analyst and tells the doctor that he has lost his desire to live and that is seriously considering suicide. The doctor listens to his tale of melancholia and then tells the patient that what he needs is a good belly laugh. He then advises the unhappy man to go to the circus that night and spend the evening laughing at Grock, the world’s funniest clown. The doctor sums it up, “After you have seen Grock, I am sure you will be much happier.” The patient rises to his feet, looks sadly at the doctor, turns and ambles toward the door. As he starts to leave the doctor says, “By the way, what is your name?” The man turns and regards the analyst with sorrowful eyes. “I am Grock.”
— Groucho Marx, Groucho And Me

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Want to know my opinion? This is how I explain it.

I think that much of what we consider human personality is a product of the energy forces prevalent on planet earth and our solar system.

We evolved in an environment – earth – where there is a constant flow of energy forces. Earth has an energy flow and so do our neighbouring planets. Our bodies and personalities and minds evolved in tune with these forces. Human personality is not some divinely imposed truth – it is perhaps instead the admixture of our own solar system’s energy that we have taken for an absolute. These energies have been implanted upon us and evolved into us and we are simply products of our astral environment.

We are susceptible to the weather because we are a part of the weather. We are little planets ourselves with our own energy systems, but no person exists in a vacuum. The larger energies are constantly moving and they continue to affect us. Small shifts in the way the larger energy is flowing will affect us keenly, some more consciously than others.

Each planet in our solar system has its own specific energetic characteristics. Who knows why. There is no why, it just simply is that way. Each heavenly body products different kinds of gamma rays, electrical rays, etcetera ad infinitum.

We can tune in to the flow of energy, or we can try to resist it. It’s a lot easier to go with the flow, and a lot more satisfying.



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Where the planets are at the moment we are born seems to imprint upon each of us. Who knows why. A human nervous system is a delicate thing and perhaps it’s similar to the way in which our upbringing imprints upon us, albeit over far longer developmental period. The astrological arrangement at the moment of our birth will give us the characteristics of a particular arrangement. Certain energies will exist in harmony, other energies will clash. This will give us our personality and temperament: what we do with this is up to us. Personality is simply the energy that wants to express itself through us in this lifetime, because we are the fragment of the solar system and universe as it was at the moment we are born, and we live out the dynamic of who we are until we die.

A personality only lasts a lifetime. A personality can be challenging, both for us and for those around us. But challenge is the source of creativity and further evolution: it brings further creation and destruction.

The ancients observed the effect of the planets. They created a system. They discovered that the full spectrum of human experience could be divided into 12 signs and houses. Perhaps they used intuition to discern this information? Perhaps it was given to them by a connection to higher intelligence of some kind? Perhaps it was hard fought data collection of some ancient civilisation that has now been long forgotten? Perhaps we will find out, one day.

All I know is that a person born an Aries, for instance, the first sign of the zodiac- which means they were born at a time when the Sun was in the sign of Aries – will carry that Aries energy with them. Similarly the Piscean will always carry Piscean energy in them. The sun in our birth chart – a  drawing of where all the planets were at the exact time we were born – determines our identity and primary way of being and thriving in the world. It is our eternal truth, our gold. The position of the moon in our chart will tell us about our emotional needs. Mercury will tell you about how a person communicates and thinks. Venus will tell you about what a person values and finds beautiful. Mars explains a person’s approach to taking action. Jupiter tells you were a person is lucky and abundant. Saturn tells you where a person needs to learn to find authority and mastery. Neptune describes a person’s dream life and creativity. Uranus tells you about a generation’s attitude towards experimentation and innovation. Pluto governs a person’s transformative powers.

Of course this summary is so brief and lacking as to be negligent. The vital point to astrology is that it is a language of symbolism, and the meaning of the signs, the planets, the houses and the asteroids lies beyond a paragraph of well-chosen descriptors. The astrologer is someone who has come to understand what these energies and forces mean beyond simple description. They are symbologists.

A person’s chart will often contain conflicting energies. Their sun might want to shine brightly, but their moon might want them to withdraw and live hermetically. Within the balancing of these often contradictory energies we find ourselves being challenges to solve the problem of being alive. Conflict is  a source of creative power, and people with conflicted charts are often the most driven to succeed. When are a too comfortable, we flounder.

Astrology is useful in giving validation to your intuition. Our astrology chart will tell us what we knew all along, but didn’t perhaps have the courage to admit. Perhaps we were too confused, because our personalities can be very confusing. Almost never will someone visit a good astrologer and not come away somehow opened up by the experience.

Why is astrology useful? For starters, it makes you feel less crazy.

Right now Mars and Saturn are conjunct, and it is a dark moon. This means that Mars energy is being combined with Saturn energy. Saturn is all about the overcoming of challenges, and Mars is all about taking action. A dark moon is, however, not the time to take big action. It is a time for introspection and reflection. This sort of energy is pretty intense and it can either drag you down or transform your life. If you didn’t follow astrology, you might just think there was something wrong with you. You might just think you were having a bad week.

When I listen to my astrologer, it’s as if she is reading my mind, simply because she knows exactly what is going on in the solar system. That’s how energy works. It’s everywhere in the same moment, including within us.


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Love is not found in any ideal. It is not found in conforming to a standard. Love is an intention that determines our state of being in the world. It determines what we see and what we are able to create.

A life you love is created from the intention to choose love as often as possible. We can set this intention for ourselves. With enough practice, love can be our steadfast intention in every moment. Anyone can learn to do this.

Love is what we really seek in life without our even realising it. Tragically, we know so little about love. We undervalue it and consider it little more than a lofty aspiration. It would be nice to follow the teachings of Jesus and Buddha, but in the real world, we doubt there is room for love.

And yet all of life conspires to teach us how to love and be more loving. Learning about love is how we shift to higher awareness and higher consciousness. The universe is love, and when we shift towards love, we shift into harmony with nature. When we become at one with the greater divine love, we will have transcended our human ego.

Love consciousness – the way of Buddha, Lao Tzu, Jesus, Krishna – is a higher way of being in the world. It is a gateway to higher consciousness and enlightenment. Beyond love there is bliss and peace, and love is the gateway to these higher states of being.

The greatest service we can do for the world around us to learn to embody love. When we love, we become people who contribute love to the world. The more people who embody love, the closer we will get to heaven on earth.

From the perspective of love, we see the world from a higher, more divine perspective. Love vibrates at a higher level of resonance. When we choose love, we ourselves shift into the frequency of love. We become ourselves like the divine teachers and sages.

We get in life what we are. Our society is a product of the energy vibration of the average person. Raise the average, even by a tiny amount, and we create a revolution.

Our own shift towards love is a gift to the world. It is how we create a new world of possibilities through our own ability to create love as a possibility. Each time we choose love – when we choose to pick up a piece of litter, choose to listen instead of judge, choose to share instead of hoard, choose to honour our truth and intuition rather than ego and fear – we contribute to the greater love.

1. Love is a choice

Life doesn’t need to be so complicated. It’s just a matter of choosing love in every single moment. Creating a life you love is a choice. It is a matter of choosing what is loving to you, and saying no to what is unloving.

We do not choose our inspiration and true path, it chooses us. We do not choose what we are or to even be born – at least at the level of human reason. It is spirit that creates us and it is our spirit that chooses to live. Life/spirit creates us and we can only yield to our true nature or suffer the pains of resisting what is. And yet we choose how we interact with the flow of what is. We choose our intention. We choose love, or we choose fear.

We choose whether to love what we are or whether to fear, judge and hate. Choice is vital. It is how we evolve. As Gary Zukav writes, “the decisions that you make and the actions that you take upon the earth are the means by which you evolve.”

All choices are an act of creativity, because each choice creates a new reality. We are each the creators of our own experience. Even when we fail to choose we are actually making a choice. To experience love, we need to learn how to choose love in each moment. We need to focus our choices so they all work towards the creation of a life we love.

It isn’t enough to get your dream job or partner or house or body. It might seem like it would be effortless to find contentment in doing what you love and possessing what you love. But these are just opportunities to experience love. Love is not just an opportunity.

Love is not something that we can acquire. It is not something that is won. It is not a trophy or world record or balance sheet. It is an intention, an energy frequency, a state of being. And it must be created continually. It must be connected to in each moment. The love is always there. The only thing that changes is our ability to connect to love.

Doing what you love – following your passions, for instance – will create the opportunity for love, but it doesn’t create the love in and of itself.

Love isn’t automatic. The conditions for love can exist, and we can still be too caught up in fear to embrace these possibilities.

No goal or achievement can bring love into your life if love isn’t your clear, explicit, highest intention. If our intention is control, for instance, we are choosing from the fear of not having control. If we choose a career that we hope will protect us from failure, we will not create a life we love. The need for control at all costs will transform our dreams into nightmares. Choosing fear over love creates a life that makes us more afraid.

Doing what we love by itself isn’t enough. Following your dreams is not the complete recipe for creating a life we love. This is where it becomes so easy to get lost. The secret is this: we need to do what you love, WITH love. We need to learn, then, how to do things with love. This requires that we become masters of how to be loving. Very few of us know how to do this. We are much more practiced at judging and seeking control.

Love is a daily way of being in the world. Through love we can discover what we love, but to sustain the love we must be the continually creators of our connection to loving awareness. When we make each choice, we need to understand our intention. Is this loving? Am I open to learning about love? Or am I afraid? Am I trying to control?

Taking the time to discover our truth and true intentions is loving. Love is naturally curious and naturally wants to embrace the truth. When we love someone, we want to know everything about them. When we fear them, we shut out their truth.

If we decide we want to create a life we love, it is always only every because we love ourselves. The more we love, the more we value love. Tiny steps towards love fuel us. Every tiny shift is, however, a big leap.

Most of us look for permission to love ourselves from the outside world without knowing how to create love and a life we love. Love is allowing yourself to do what you love and be loved for who you are: giving yourself permission to choose love, and to love yourself, every hour of the day. When you choose love in each moment, a life you love is the natural product.

It is a mistake to believe that you need anyone’s approval for you to create a life you love. Wait too long for approval, and your life will soon be over.

We want a life we love, and yet we go about creating this life by avoiding our fears. We choose to react to our fears rather than to follow what brings love into our lives. We seek safety in ideals, believing that our failure to meet these ideas is what is blocking love from our lives.

Perhaps we fear poverty, rejection, or mediocrity, or humiliation. Or all four. We might fear failing to live up to expectations. We might fear our own self-reproach. Fear of not being good enough or capable enough or worthy enough is the thing that does the most to create a life that we hate. 

Fear focuses our energy into getting validation rather than creating value. Fear makes us desperate for safety. Some people choose to look for safety in money. Some people seek it in fame or social respectability.

We live in an incredibly rich but rather impoverished society. It’s no surprise that we are restless and looking for what we want in the wrong places. We are trying to fill up on relish rather than offering ourselves the nourishment of a solid meal.

2. Love is created and is creative energy

Creating a life you love requires that you understand both love and creativity.

Our life is our greatest creation. We compose our life through the medium of our intention and our choices.

Most of the things we believe we want, however, are not going to come into our lives. They are not meant to. It is so easy to get out of touch with your truest desires and to replace them with ideals and obligations: with reactions to fear.

Action is instructive. It’s vital to act on your desires to test them and discover the truth about whether they really are what you wanted after all. Many of the things I’ve wanted have proven wrong for me. Without love, life is a burden, a torture. Vision without love is a recipe for chronic dissatisfaction. It is through testing my hypotheses that I have learned the truth. I’ve avoided the sadness of living under the shadow of a big “what if?” The value of love is something that life conspires to teach us when we are an active partner is the evolution of our consciousness.

Creativity requires taking action. It requires giving birth. It requires active discovery of the truth. The more we are connected to love, the less threatened we are by life. We are prepared to learn the truth and aren’t so terrified by it. We realise that we are always safe, and that truth lies on the other side of our fears. We don’t need control, because we have love. We no longer need the world to conform to our ideas of what would be safe for us.

Life can seem cruel until we discover that love is the real lesson: not winning, not triumphing. What would be far more cruel is for us to live our wrong lives and for life to exist to gratify our egos. For us to prefer fantasies is a sign of our ignorance of the truth of life and the true nature of our experience.

There is so much left for us to learn about love. The generous teachings of Jesus of Nazareth and Gautama Buddha are waiting for us all to embody them. They are widely available. Billions of people follow these teachings. And yet we devote so little time to their core message of embodying love. We focus on dogma, rules, fear and judgment and are misguided by the institutions that fail to celebrate the core messages sufficiently.

3. Love is not control

Creativity requires that we release our need for control. Many people are addicted to control. Our relationships are often characterised by power struggles and we want certainty and security from the outside world. This is what happens when we don’t feel certainty inside ourselves, when we lack a connection to self love or divine love.

Creativity requires that we are open. Control, however, makes us shut down. Control needs things to be a certain way. Control doesn’t want to see what might run contrary to the need for safety.

Openness to the truth – to new possibilities – is what makes creation possible. Creation requires that we connect to powers that are far beyond our human capacities for control. Nothing that is created is created simply by the power of our will and intellect. We need to connect to vastly greater forces. We need to allow creation to flow through us.

Needing to know whether or not you will succeed before you even get started guarantees failure. It will restrict your possible outcomes, because it will mean that you will only give what is safe, not what is necessary.

Creativity requires being prepared to be disappointed. Disappointment might feel like failure, but it is only a failure of life to conform to our exact expectations.  What we are called to create in life is often far beyond our capacity for imagining it ourselves.

It is creative to embrace things as they are. Doing so creates value in what is. It is open to the truth of things. In being open, we align to the truth, rather than live in resistance to it.

The challenges of life are opportunities to create love. Each disappointment is a lesson in what we need to learn how to love. When we learn how to love, we create ourselves as a being that is capable of greater love. We recreate ourselves as we expand our capacity for love.

Creativity requires that we expect the unexpected. Often our ideas about how our life and success should manifest are quite incorrect. It may take far more time for you to find success than you imagine. It might take time for your true talents and abilities to grow, but in the end, they will no doubt far exceed what you ever imagined was possible.

The life that is best for us, and the life that is really meant for us, might not conform to our ideals. Fixed ideas are limits. Idealism is often routed in fear. Ideals and the truth are often very different from each other.

Love doesn’t need things to be a certain way

Love is beyond acceptance. It embraces things as they are, and expects that every apparent shortcoming is naturally balanced with a blessing.

Patience is an acceptance of the fact that there is a larger system, and that divine timing is more powerful than our ego’s need to have something right now.

Impatience comes from fear. If we believe we need to rush something to make it happen, it is because we don’t trust that something is so right for us that it is meant to be in our lives. An attitude of needing to be responsible for everything – to make everything happen – actually blocks the creative process. Creation flows through us. our task is to be opened and aligned: the show up and let the flow enter us and pass through us. We do not get to control all the details, and we do not succeed if we try to conform the world to our every need.

All things that we create take their own time. Rushing their gestation can kill the creative unfolding.

4. Love is honest

Allowing yourself to feel how you feel – to be honest about what you want and what inspires you – gives you the power to focus your energy in the direction that aligns to your truth. Love and truth are connected, because love is the truth.

The more honest we become, the more focused we become. Focus brings creative energy. It brings inspiration.

Honesty makes things happen faster. It does away with fear and the struggles and distractions that fear brings. Fear holds us back because it ties up our energy and power in doing the things that we think we need to do in order to be safe. Pursuit safety makes us a slave to fear.

It’s a mistake to overlook your desires because you think there is something wrong with them. Perhaps you think they are ridiculous? Too ambitious? Sinful? Egotistical? Irresponsible? Our desires don’t have to be any of those things is they are honest expressions of what inspires us. As we learn to live from love, we come to understand whether our desires are honest or dishonest. We avoid all the potential shortfalls when our intention is pure and loving. If we trust ourselves to be loving and honest, we have nothing to fear.

An authentic desire emanates from your soul. Creativity flows through you. You are not the source. You are simply the conduit. But you need to be connected to your soul in order to create. You need to be connected to higher truth, which is radiantly honest.

Creating our life plans from reason and a need for control and security never works out. Trying to substitute for your heart’s desires is a recipe for a life you hate. Listening to your voice and feeling your energy when you talk about and think about certain goals and plans can tell you a great deal about your real feelings. Rational goals are draining. Dismissing your truth is self-destructive.

Any desire that comes from fear and the ego will never create a life you love. The pleasure of ego is fleeting and only makes us more fearful. Only through a loving intention can we create a life we love. Nothing that we create from a place of ego, ambition, jealousy, greed or cheating will bring us love. Our cheating only cheats ourselves.

Our mind and awareness is naturally creative. We create whatever we see in the world. We create our judgments and our fears. Focusing on negative emotions turns us into the person or thing that we are most critical of. We need to be very careful what we criticise, because the critical energy conforms us to our critical expectations. We become the negative that we see in the world. To live from love, we need to shift into the intention to love. We need to learn to shift out of our fears and observe them with curiosity – as gifts and lessons in what we still need to learn about love.

It is possible to us to sabotage our desires by our subconscious belief that what we want for our lives is impossible. Unconscious believes that don’t support our vision will undermine us, and create mixed results. Honesty creates clarity. We need to make a point of getting clear both about what we want and what we believe is possible, rooting out our deep, hidden, limiting beliefs. Otherwise the conflict will create incredible creative blocks.

If our desire is to impress people, we need to be honest about that. Only through honesty can be learn the truth. Only then can we move past this desire and move from the intention to impress people to a higher intention: the intention to inspire people. Love shifts us from wanting to take from others: to get attention, love and admiration, to wanting to offer the world something: love, inspiration, knowledge.

The frustrated artist knows the feeling of conflict that is at battle when you vision for what you want to create challenges your negative beliefs about yourself and what it’s possible for you to create both in your art and your life. Negative beliefs normally win out.

Negativity is dishonest. It is unbalanced. We need to bring honesty to our dishonesty if we are to balance ourselves out and transcend the old polarity.

It causes us great anxiety to challenge our oldest beliefs about ourselves. Negative beliefs are our protection. We identify with the negativity, embodying it, so that it feels less threatening to us.

Our beliefs largely determine our experiences. People who expect to be treated badly usually are. In their world, this is the truth. We are all guilty of creating negative outcomes for ourselves to some degree.

Negative beliefs about ourselves may well be the way in which we first bonded with the world around us. To go against old criticisms, rejections and doubts would be to challenge our whole way of relating to the world. Letting go of old beliefs can bring up great anxiety. But until we release the conflict between what we want to create, and what believe we can create, we will remain in deadlock.

Continual mixed messages will only send you in circles. We can wait around like helpless children for the praise we’ve always craved but never came. Or we can actively start to support ourselves with our own conscious and consistent self-approval. We can learn to connect directly to love by knowing that love is something we can always choose in each moment, if we are willing.

Time spend conjuring your desires in your mind on a regular basis makes you increasingly comfortable with their possibility. They become less and less intimidating. The more honest we are, the more comfortable we become with being honest.

It’s important to honestly observe how your choices are making you feel. It doesn’t matter how much you believe you love something or someone, if it is making your sick and unhappy, something vital isn’t working. Something important needs to change.

Perhaps the dream needs to be rebuilt or substantially renovated? Perhaps the relationship needs space for your to get perspective?

Enthusiasm is honest excitement. It means we are connected to something that is real and vital for us. Enthusiasm fills us with divine energy. Following enthusiasm will guarantee that we create a life we love.

To choose love, we must choose what excites us, surprises us, fills us with energy. Spontaneity is inspiring. Love is energising, and we know we are inspired by love when we feel enthusiasm.

5. No one will give you approval to be honest and loving

Being honest can upset people. When we are loving towards ourselves, we will stop tolerating unloving behaviour from everyone. This can lead to conflict and the loss of important relationships.

Many people will believe that we are insane or idiotic for even imagining that we can create a life that is satisfying to us. They will believe we are selfish for devoting ourselves to our burning desires. They will hate us for not allowing them to treat us however is most convenient to them in each moment.

It is painful to realise that the people who are most important to us might not support us or believe in us. If these people do not live from love, they may be afraid of what love might do to challenge our connection to them.

Honesty will requires letting go of what is dishonest. Releasing illusions can be painful. But if we are connected to love for what we are doing, and feel inspired by our new path, we won’t give it a second thought. The love we feel will be greater than the sadness of discovering the truth that people do not love us as we really are.

6. Love requires discernment

Anything that undermines you and your dreams will need to be removed from your life. Anything that doesn’t support you has the potential to hold you back. Addictions, dysfunctional relationships, disorder and chaos are all things hat can drain our energy away from our dreams.

Choosing love requires saying no to what doesn’t support us in honouring our truth and talents. If we worship our fears, we cannot live from love. We need to become conscious of what our values are and choose actions that reflect love as our highest value.

You will need to give yourself permission to be discerning. No all situations and relationships give us room to say no without creating serious disruptions. The popular modes of being in the world: consuming, climbing and achieving are not loving, but letting go of these unloving agendas will be widely questioned by people about whom we might very much care.

Consumerism and clutter create stagnant, fearful energy. A house that is cluttered with unnecessary items blocks your life from welcoming new, more suitable and desirable energy. When we empty our lives of our fear-based attachments, we can open ourselves up to the things we most deeply and sincerely crave.

Our dreams require our full energy. If our energy is being drained, then we cannot give our best to realising our visions and to offering love to the world.

We are the ones who have to step up and fulfil our deepest desires and needs. The process of creating a life we love for ourselves teaches us just how much power we have without ourselves.


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This porridge is too hot. This porridge is too cold. This porridge is … just right?

Eating the porridge that is ‘just right’ is being discerning. The cold and hot porridge isn’t bad. It just isn’t the temperature that suits us.

We could eat the cold porridge. But that would be unpleasant. It wouldn’t be a very nice thing to make ourselves do, especially when their is just right porridge we could be eating. Discernment requires that we understand our needs and honour them because we want to create a life that meets our needs.

When making a choice, it doesn’t mean the other choices are bad, wrong, inadequate. They are just not choices that serve our best interests and highest good. They are not a “good fit”. And so we need to move on. No need to feel bad about it.

It can be challenging to be discerning when there is no guaranteed “just right” porridge sitting on the table waiting for us. We might decided to just make do with the cold porridge. Eat too much cold porridge, however, and life starts to suck.

This is where we need to have faith that “just right” exists somewhere out there, and that our needs are sufficiently important that it is worth our forgoing the cold porridge to seek the porridge we really want. Discernment requires faith that our needs are important that our needs can be met. And in seeking for our just right porridge, we might surprise ourselves and discover that we actually hate porridge and would really prefer a breakfast burrito. If we had gotten the just right porridge too quickly, we would never have discovered our true breakfast passion.

Valuing your own needs and making the choice to satisfy them ultimately guides us to our most fulfilling experience of life, even if it ends up surprising us.


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I’ve come across people who read a lot of books, hundreds of books each year, and are still incredibly banal in their views. Yes, this really is possible.

What is it that they are seeking when they read? Is it intellectual domination? Are they seeking to control the world with their knowledge? Is it an earnest belief in the goodness of betterment?

If these are your intentions, one can’t help but be banal. From our banalities spring our breakthroughs. We must be first trite to become contrite.

I have pursued knowledge, possessions, control. I appreciate firsthand that superficial solutions create a superficial experience of life. Those who seek higher awareness are those who have grown tired of their own superficiality. They have reached the back of ordinary experience.

If you’re really clever, you don’t need to read a lot of books. If you’re really rich, you don’t need a lot of money. If you value yourself from your essence, external validation starts to seem highly unnecessary. From higher awareness, our need becomes to appreciate rather than seek gains. We seek the company of people who help us to appreciate the beauty and joy of life. We seek to appreciate all things and therefore be sustained by all things. We choose what is appreciative of who we are. We take action that expresses our love and appreciation.

This is my case for less: we don’t need more than an intention to appreciate and love. That’s the ultimate in travelling light.


Misery flows from miserable thoughts. This is the relative norm. Judgment and competitiveness needlessly pervade the popular consciousness and we can quickly get swallowed up, swept away with the tide of collective fear.

There is no peace or power in a person’s life who hasn’t claimed their authority. Life conspires to teach us this lesson. Finding a way out of the thrall of lower consciousness is no easy task. We need to claim authority over our own experience. We must make use of our precious free will.

Our thoughts are a vital tool in achieving love consciousness. Thoughts themselves shouldn’t be worshipped as truth. A thought or belief isn’t the truth, but it can either bring us closer to the truth or lead us astray. The quality of our thoughts is vital to the quality of our experience.

We need to be very careful about the quality of what we are thinking or believing, because they will profoundly influence the quality of the choices we are capable of making, and the kind of reality we are capable of creating. A thought is a gateway to awareness and experience. An aware thought can lead instantly into a higher state of awareness. This illumination can last a minute or a lifetime.

We each get to choose the consciousness from which we operate. Many of us fail to choose, and so we operate on auto-pilot, creating from a lower level of consciousness. For most people, that level of conscious is unloving, fearful, judgmental and dysfunctional.

We can redirect the nature of our thoughts. If we make aware, loving thoughts a habit, we can become a source of our own continual illumination and higher consciousness. We can train ourselves to shift into loving thoughts any time that fear, anxiety and judgment start consuming us.

But what does a loving thought actually look like? Here are seven new ways of understanding love that will help you to make it your reality

1. Love can’t be earned

We may strive and strain to deserve someone’s love, but the task is futile. There are no requirements for a person or thing to deserve love.

Wasting our energy on attempting to earn the love of the world is a lesson only in the reality that true love cannot be earned.

Being as you are is adequate. There is no deserving. All things are perfect and divine. If we are loved or not loved, it will have everything to do with the person who is loving us. If we love others or ourselves, it has everything to do with our own ability to love and see what is loveable. No one ever earns our love.

We cannot control the world into loving us. All we can do is connect to love and connect to people who share their love. All we can do is love ourselves sufficiently to cultivate who we are and creatively share ourselves with the world.

The fact that most people will find it impossible to love us is a gift. It makes it essential that we learn to be a creator of love for ourselves and the world around us rather than exist as a mere passive consumer of love. Life teaches us to be a creator, and so it creates the necessary lack and tension to support creativity.

2. All things can be loved

Some things are distasteful. Some things are repugnant and terrifying.

Love shifts us out of judgment and sees what is valuable with divine perspective. Love doesn’t operate from the human ego. Death and tragedy are all vital. When we die and when others die, this death brings awareness about the value of life. Death is a beautiful gift to life. 

Our soul is eternal and so we are only transformed. Only ego and personality dies, and these are illusions that teach us about truth, but are not themselves truth. 

Higher awareness appreciates the value in all things. There is nothing that can’t be loved. Everything that is “wrong” with you and the world is perfect as it is. Your apparent weak points have their value. They are entry points to awareness. They will protect you from pursuing what isn’t right for you. Being as you are is more vital and loveable than being otherwise.

It pays to be open to unexpected goodness. There are hidden benefits and goodness in everything. Only our judgments and thoughts block us from this love.

3. Love – and higher awareness – is built on choice

Experiencing love depends on choosing love. We must choose what is loving and avoid what is unloving. Our choices matter.

Choosing love means saying no to what isn’t love. Saying no isn’t a judgment. It’s a discernment. If we choose love, it’s because that’s how we want to live. We want to align to higher awareness and release lower awareness. 

4. Fear is an opportunity to learn about love

When our fears are triggered, we have the opportunity to uncover the truth about them. We can learn from our fears how to be more loving.

A person who has learned to love themselves and the world in spite of all limits and fears will find in themselves incredibly powerful. They will not be dependent on circumstances for their experience of love. They will have the ability to bring that love to all people and things. Fear is an opportunity to connect to the power of love in a deeper way. In using choice to consistently connect to love when we are afraid, fear loses its power over us.

In a moment of suffering however we can always stop and ask ourselves:

  1. What am I feeling right now?
  2. What thoughts and judgments about myself and others are causing me pain?
  3. What is not loving about this situation that is hurting me?
  4. What have I chosen for myself right now that is painful: is it a fearful thought? Or is it the pain of having made a fearful choice?
  5. How am I being unloving to myself right now? Am I terrorising myself with fearful thoughts? Am I attaching to a need for control?
  6. Am I really separated from love? Can I connect to love regardless of external circumstances?
  7. What action can I take to be more loving?

At any moment, we can shift our thoughts and consciously choose to shift our awareness. We can shift into a state of openness and let go of criticism and judgment. We can learn from what is and learn how to bring love to all things

At any time we can consciously choose to stop. We can say a prayer of love and feel that love in our body. We can shift up and out of fear.

The ability to stop and connect to higher awareness gets stronger with practice. Prayer, meditation and the rosary all train us to release thoughts and connect automatically to higher awareness. It is loving to train ourselves to choose what supports us in living an aware, loving life.

5. There is no authentic success without love

A beautiful life does not need to conform to our ideals and fake standards. Many apparently beautiful things end up being unsatisfying. Most of our ideas about how life should be are wrong. Judgments and standards are inherently unloving and need to be avoided if we are to live from love consciousness.

Love doesn’t look how we so often believe it should look. A loving family doesn’t need to be placid and peaceful. A loving parent doesn’t have to be perfect. A loving career is not one without turmoil or many turning points.

Authentic success doesn’t come from the satisfaction of ideals. Ideals are typically routed in ego and ego-based needs for control and safety. To purse ego’s ideals is to create a life around satisfaction of the ego, which is impossible because ego can’t be satisfied.

6. Not getting what we want might be the most loving outcome

The things we want might not be loving for us. We just haven’t realised it yet.

The job, the relationship, the house we idealise might in fact be completely wrong for us and our life path and the world. This is always a possibility that we need to be open to. With experience, it proves itself to be true.

We aren’t always good at picking goals and dreams that reflect our truth. We need to cultivate a healthy scepticism for our desires and shift towards loving more and desiring less.

7. You can stop and connect to love in every moment

It takes less than half a minute.

  • Stop and say: thank you.
  • Stop and feel love flowing through your body. Invite it to enter you.
  • Stop and look around at every person and thing and say: I love you.
  • Stop and get down on your knees and give thanks for everything that is, exactly as it is.
  • Stop and connect to serene love.
  • Stop and connect to your own presence.
  • Stop and connect to your own heart and breath and soul.

How do you feel now? Why live any other way? We can create love in every moment, and in such a way create a life we love.